​The Backbiting Of The Heart – Imaam An-Nawawee

Know that having bad thoughts about someone is forbidden just like having bad speech about him. So just as it is forbidden for you to speak to others about the defects of a person, it is likewise forbidden for you to speak to yourself about that and to hold bad thoughts for him.

Allaah says:

“O you who believe, avoid much (types) of suspicion. Verily some (forms) of suspicion is a sin.” [Surah Al-Hujuraat: 12]
And Abu Hurairah (radhi Allaahu anhu) reported that Allaah’s Messenger (sall Allaahu alayhi wa sallam) said:

“Beware of suspicion, for indeed suspicion is the most untruthful form of speech.”
The ahaadeeth with this same understanding I have mentioned here are many. What the backbiting of the heart means, is: When the heart has firm conviction and holds bad thoughts about someone. But as for the notions that occasionally display in one’s mind or when one talks to himself, then as long as these thoughts do not remain established and continuous in him, it is excused according to the consensus of the scholars. This is since he has no choice in the matter as to stop it from occurring nor can he find any way to liberate himself from it when it does occur. This is the understanding of what has been authentically established (in the texts).
The Messenger of Allaah (sall Allaahu alayhi wa sallam) said: “Indeed, Allaah has permitted for my ummah that which their souls whisper to them, so long as they do not speak it out (audibly) or act upon it.”
The scholars say: “This refers to the notions that form in one’s mind, but do not become settled or established there.”

And they said: “This is regardless if the notion consists of backbiting, disbelief or so on (i.e. it is pardoned, so long as it does not settle). So (for example) whoever’s mind becomes flooded with thoughts of disbelief, but they are only thoughts, without him intending to have them carried out, and he then rids himself of these thoughts right after they occur, he is not a disbeliever nor is there any sin on him…
The Backbiting Of The Heart – Imaam An-Nawawee



Questioner: In some of your tapes we heard that moving the [index] finger in the tashahhud is not done by raising and lowering it, i.e., [but should be done by moving it] from the right to the left, so we implement this, walhamdulillaah, but the people ask us what the proof for that is?

Al-Albaani: How do you implement it?
Questioner: Ya’ni, I move my finger from the right to the left.
Al-Albaani: Who told you that?
Questioner: One of your tapes, O Shaikh.
Al-Abaani: No, you’re mistaken.
Questioner: What is the correct way?
Al-Albaani: The correct way is that you move it in its place, not to the right and left, in other words, you raise it and lower it but in a manner that can hardly be seen, understand?
Questioner: Understood, O Shaikh, understood.
Al-Albaani: As for moving it the right and left then this has crept in among you from your old madhhab, or from the madhhab of some of you in Algeria and Morocco and those countries on the coast of the Mediterranean Sea, i.e., the Maaliki madhhab, they are the ones who do what you mentioned …
Questioner: In [your book] Sifatus-Salaatin-Nabee, you mentioned that when Imaam Ahmad was asked whether he pointed with his finger in the prayer he said, ‘Yes, intensely.’ Intensely, what does intensely mean here? The speed or what?
Al-Albaani: That is it, ya’ni, a lot.
Questioner: A lot?
Al-Albaani: Yes.
Questioner: Alhamdulillaah.
Al-Hudaa wan-Noor, 564.
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Don’t tie your obedience to Allah around the neck of a person

Don’t tie your obedience to Allah around the neck of a person. So when that person pleases you, your obedience increases but if they anger you, you rebel against Allah.

This is extremely common in marriages where one person “changed” for the sake of their spouse and not for the sake of Allah.
So when the marriage breaks down, so does their obedience to Allah. What this person doesn’t realise is that in rebelling against Allah, they are a double loser:
1. They receive no reward for their initial actions because they weren’t sincerely for Allah.
2. They are earning sin for their disobedience once they rebel.
Sadly many people do this after divorce under the guise of “rebuilding”. Shaytaan makes them believe that through their actions, they are coping with divorce. In reality they are merely slipping further away from Allah!
Rather, whenever any calamity befalls us we should turn back to Allah rather than rebelling against Him. The cure for heartbreak doesn’t lie in going out, buying new clothes, abandoning hijab/beard etc, leaving salah and indulging one’s desires. It lies in the remembrance of Allah and adhering to the Sunnah. We must leave this rebound culture.
Abdulhakeem Dammy Adeyemi


Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah(رحمه الله):

And the worshiper – the more humble, needy, and subdued he is before Allah – the closer he will be to Him, and the dearer he will be to Him, and the greater in status he will be to Him. So, the happiest of the Creation is the one who is greatest in servitude to Allah.
As for the Creation, as it is said: be in need of whoever you wish, and you will be his prisoner; be sufficient from whoever you wish, and you will be his adversary; be kind to whoever you wish, and you will be his authority…
So, the greatest in status and honor the slave is with others is when he is not in need of them in any way, shape, or form. If you are good to others while not being in need of them, you will be greater in their eyes. When you are in need of them – even if for a sip of water – your status is reduced in their eyes in accordance with what it is you need from them. And this is from the Wisdom and Mercy of Allah, in order that the Religion all be for Allah, and that nothing be associated with Him.
Because of this, when Hatim al-Asamm was asked: ‘With what can one protect himself from people?’ He answered: “That you freely give them from what you have, and that you are cold and indifferent towards what they have.” However, if you are in a position to be compensated from them, and they are also in need of something from you, and the needs of the two sides become equal, you become like two merchants, none of whom has any virtue over the other. If they are the more needy side, that is when they will become subdued.
So, with the Exalted Lord, the most generous you are to Him is when you are most in need of Him. With the Creation, the most insignificant you are to them is when you are most in need of them.
[‘Majmu’ al-Fatawa’, 1/67]
Courtesy: Ridwanullah Ibrahim