Why is it Haraam to Engage in Courtship?

Good Bye Boyfriend.
Hello Mr. Husband!
For you who are in unlawful relationship or in hard time in purifying yourself, this is for you

Most of the time, when I talk about this topic, the responses I get is…

“But I love him so much!”
“I can’t live without him!”
“We are struggling to make it halal.”
“I can’t find anyone better than him.”
And the list goes on and on.

I know it is difficult. To say good-bye to the person that you loved the most. And I know deep – DEEP inside the guilt-conscious is killing you.

Knowing that you’re disobeying Allāh, yet you’re not strong enough to let him go. I don’t ask you to let him go. I ask you to return him to Allāh. He isn’t yours. You may think you’re comforting him and making him happy. That is what visible to you, but from another side – You’re actually destroying him. For every moment you made him disobey Allāh by texting you, calling you, dating you – You’ve snatch him from Allāh and made his heart turned black due to disobedience.

You wont see the result now (Keep reading I’ll tell you when you will see the result).

Another common case I’ve seen is – The Islamic Couples. Awww so cute Not!
The guy with beard. The girl is in a complete hijab.
No dating no touching just texting. He wakes you up for tahajjud, and you remind him to recite Al- Kahf. Sister, who are you fooling? No one can assure you’re doing that purely for the sake of Allāh. You may think you’re but you’re not. Don’t tell me you have that butterfly flying in your tummy when your mom wakes you up for fajr? Then why would you have it when your In sha Allāh-future-husband texts you? Why do you have such funny sensation in your body and that huge smile on your face every time he texted you? Yes. Hormone!! and this hormone has a deep relationship with desire.

This is unlawful for both of you are not husband and wife. In another word, it’s haraam.

One more scenario is couples that are engaged. They are so sure that they both will get married, so they think it’s okay for them to free-mix. No! You can’t my dear sisters.

We are living in a world that divorce has become so cheap. Even those who married for years break up – so there is no guarantee he will keep his promises. I have seen, many – In fact too many engaged couples break up few months prior to their wedding.

Sisters, One thing you must bear in your mind is, your heart and his heart are in the control of Allāh. And trust me, He can change the feelings you have for each other any second.

Remember, do not disobey Allāh for the sake of someone you love because the heart of the one you love is in the control of the One you disobey.

It is not impossible for Him. Don’t challenge Him. Don’t cross the line. You may think that, you didn’t commit zina and for that it is not a big issue. We are not talking about how big or small it is, rather who you’re disobeying. You are against Allāh.

You’re disobeying Allāh. And do you think by disobeying Him, He will answer your prayer?
You texts your boyfriend from morning to night, and you wake up in the middle of night asking Allāh to help both of you. Does it make any sense?

If you are sincere, you will walk in the path that Allāh loves. You’ll please Him so He will be pleased with you too. I have seen many sisters who are madly and deeply in love. And their love story is about to make a success Wedding Bell but then, suddenly the guy left her. Left her for no proper reason. You know why? This is due to sins that you both have committed. The heart has tasted much haraam things and has no desire for what is halaal. This is the result from the disobedience you have made him committed.

It’s never too late. You can fix it. You can make a change.
Turn back to Allāh. Every time the heart aches, cry to Him. Ask Him to grant you patient and strength.

Yes, nobody said it was easy. But you have to.
You have to polish the heart with repentance.
If you truly love him, return him to Allāh and Allāh
will take care of Him. If he is yours, he will be surely yours.
Remember, Allāh has written your happiness.

…May Allah give us a better understanding & guide us to accept the truth

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