We have not seen anything that creates LoVe between two individuals such as Nikkah”.
01 – FEAR ALLAH :- It was the noble practice of Nabi (صلى الله عليه وسلم) to make the spouses aware of the fear of ALLAH, before performing a Nikah by reciting the verses (Al Nisa 14, Al Ahzab 69, Aali imran 101).
02 – NEVER BE ANGRY AT THE SAME TIME :- Anger is d root cause for all marital disputes. So “Control your anger”.
03 – IF ONE HAS WIN AN ARGUMENT, LET IT BE THE OTHER:- Nabi e kareem (صلى الله عليه وسلم) Said, “Whoever discards an argument despite being correct shall earn a palace in the center of Jannah” (Mishkat pg.412).
04 – IF U HAVE to CRITICIZE, DO IT LOVINGLY:- Nabi (S.A.W) Said, “A Mu’min is a mirror for a Mu’min” (Abu Dawood vol 2, pg 325 imdadiya) (Advice with Dignity & Silently).
05 – NEVER SHOUT AT EACH OTHER UNLESS THE HOUSE IS ON FIRE:- Luqman (a.s) while offering advice to his son Said, “And lower your voice for verily d most disliked voice is that of a donkey” (Surah luqman19).
06 – NEVER BRING UP MISTAKES OF THE PAST :- Nabi (صلى الله عليه وسلم) Said, “Whoever conceals the faults of others, Allah shall conceals his faults on the day of Qayam’ah”.
07- NEGLECT THE WHOLE WORLD RATHER THAN YOUR MARRIAGE PARTNER :- Nabi (صلى الله عليه وسلم) Confirmed d advice of Salman (رضي الله عنه) for neglecting his wife, “verily there is a right of your wife over you”(Nasai 2391).
08 – NEVER SLEEP WITH AN ARGUMENT UNSETTLED:- Hazrat Abu Bakar (رضي الله عنه) resolved his dispute with his wife over feeding the guest before going to bed (Bukhari 602).
09 – AT LEAST, ONCE EVERY DAY, EXPRESS YOUR GRATITUDE TO YOUR PARTNER :- Nabi (صلى الله عليه وسلم)
Said, “Whoever doesn’t show gratitude to the people has not shown gratitude to ALLAH”(Abu dawud pg. 662).
10 – WHEN U HAVE DONE SOMETHING WRONG, BE READY TO ADMIT IT AND ASK FOR FORGIVENESS:- Nabi (صلى الله عليه وسلم) Said,”All d son of Adam commit error. And d best of those are those who seek forgiveness” (Tirmidhi 2499).
There are many ways of increasing love between the couple, consider the following these 10 points to maintain a happy marriage & control d instincts of dispute.
…May Allah give us a better understanding & guide us to accept the truth